Last year until now my life has been full of adversity. It feels like as soon as I see the top of the mountain a land slide of boulders come tumbling down and I’m pushed back. I know it’s a part of life but it’s more about how you deal with those boulders and overcome the difficult moments. Which is how and why I decided to choose a word for this year. The word I chose was RESILIENCE. Resilience is our process of bouncing back from adversity, trauma, loss, heart break and other sources of stress. Its how we grow and become better and stronger. Personally, it’s tough in the beginning but once I take a moment and remember God’s promises, there’s a sense of peace and expectation of the blessings in store.
Stop Pretending You Can Do It All
You do not have to suffer in silence. Don’t feel guilty or ashamed to ask for help. Your tribe is one of the most important factors in being resilient. Its important to surround yourself with loving and supportive friends and family. Being acceptable to help and support can make you stronger and often results in bouncing back faster.
Positive Attitude and Outlook
Resilence is not something you’re born with rather it’s learned and developed. And not everyone bounces back the same way. You have to do what works best for you and accept others way of bouncing back in their own time. Being optimistic helps create your path and keeps focus on a positive outcome.
Stress does not have to become a normal part of your life instead learn to manage and control the things that you can and eliminate the things that drain you or make you unhappy. Also, take the opportunity to learn something from it and learn something about yourself. Accept the parts that are out of your control and focus on the circumstances that can bring a positive outcome or change the situation. Many people walk away stronger, wiser, more self-worth, better relationships and greater appreciation for life.
I added a thankful jar to my positivity and gratitude journey this year. It reminds that no matter what I’m going through there is something to be grateful for and that there’s a bright side despite my obstacles.
While you’re facing difficult times its important to take care of your physical and mental health. Its a great idea to exercise, rest, read and try to do the things that make you happy. Quiet time or being alone is essential for my self care. Its a time of reflection and de-stress often by taking a warm bath, cup of tea, and music or reading a good book. I have to step away from my phone and social media or anything/anyone else that maybe distracting or cause more stress. Realize and practice what works for you and do it unapologetically
Meditation and Prayer
Mediation and prayer are ways to you can stay connected to God, remembering His plan and remind yourself that this too shall pass. God’s words and presence help us withstand the strongest storm. Journaling is another way to release your thoughts especially if you have no one to talk to or share your struggles.
As you’re going through tough times remember you will only come out stronger, you’ll be able to help someone else through their trial and you’ll be even more prepared for the next trial and bounce back with a vengeance. We should always be learning and growing in this thing called life. There is no resilience without adversity.
“You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice.”